10 Parental Rules That Tell a Wise Family From a Good One…

Many mothers dream of a genius child. But despite all the parenting tips and tricks on children’s upbringing, there is no definite rule book on how to raise one.

Jewish mothers, on the other hand, do not have to resort to psychology articles and parental forums, and their kids often turn out to be little geniuses.  We decided to learn their secret and discovered several Parenting Tips that Turns Jewish Kids into Geniuses.

Parenting Tip #10. Reward independence

Can do anything themselves

Can do anything themselves

In ordinary families, parents are convinced that children will succeed in life if they believe they can do anything. But in Jewish families, parents find it more important that children think they can do anything themselves.

In Israeli cafes, it is common to see a one-year-old eating a steak all on his own. This is because children are allowed to do anything on their own as soon as they are physically capable of doing so.

Parenting Tip #9. All things are difficult before they are easy

”All beginnings are difficult."

”All beginnings are difficult.”

To become independent, children’s endeavors must be acknowledged and cherished. If a kid started a new hobby, at any age, her parents should support and encourage her.

If something does not go well, older relatives would say “Kol haschalot kashot,“ meaning ”All beginnings are difficult.”

Parenting Tip #8. Trust is the best reward

Fully trusted to do a task by himself, to the child it means he is doing a good job.

Fully trusted to do a task by himself, to the child it means he is doing a good job.

So how should we reward those endeavors? Not with candy, and that’s for sure.

In Jewish families, a child is rewarded with trust. If he is fully trusted to do a task by himself, to the child it means he is doing a good job.

Parenting Tip #7. The outer is not everything

Clean and neat on the outside takes too much effort

Clean and neat on the outside takes too much effort

If a European mother sees how Jewish children look while talking a walk outside, she would freak out. They are often covered in mud, their fingers are sticky, their knees are dusty, and some buttons are missing.

The truth is that keeping your child clean and neat on the outside takes too much effort and time from the parent, as well as the child. Jewish parents consider it useless to the child’s personal growth and development to always keep clean clothes on. Children themselves don’t care at all what they look like.

Parenting Tip #6. Accepting untidiness

 Allow them to live however they deem comfortable

Allow them to live however they deem comfortable

Jewish kids are often surrounded by chaos which does not bother their parents. They understand: children are untidy, they knock things over, they spill everything around them.

That’s why, instead of nagging their kids about their untidy rooms, they allow them to live however they deem comfortable, explaining why tidiness is useful to them with time.

Parenting Tip #5. All energy runs out eventually

Let it all out while they are still young

Let it all out while they are still young

Other parents may feel exhausted just by looking at how Jewish kids behave. They spend the whole day running around, and no one tells them, “Don’t climb that!“ ”Don’t touch this!” or “Calm down!”

Parents of such energetic kids find it important for the children to let it all out while they are still young. This way, as adults, they will be more confident and persistent in all their endeavors.

Parenting Tip #4. Wise freedom

There is a line which even a Jewish child cannot cross

There is a line which even a Jewish child cannot cross

Indeed, Jewish kids are allowed many things. Even another drawing on the wallpaper is seen as a sign that a kid has the artistic potential of a great painter.

However, there is a line which even a Jewish child cannot cross: disrespecting their family. It may only take a judging look if he dyes your cat pink, but insulting a parent will earn the kid a much harsher punishment.

Parenting Tip #3. Dad is the leader, and so is mom

 Never depend on their parents to do or get something for them

Never depend on their parents to do or get something for them

Respect for parents is taught from an early age. Every kid in the household knows that her parents are the leaders, and anything she does is of less importance.

Therefore, children never depend on their parents to do or get something for them, but instead they try to achieve things by themselves.

Parenting Tip #2. Child self-control exists

Correct his behavior for his own good

Correct his behavior for his own good

Within Jewish families, one cannot punish a child by taking something away. Instead, several rules are in place, granting a certain benefit for a correct action. Hence, the child does not think narrowly in terms of restrictions and punishments, but he learns to correct his behavior for his own good.

It’s not for fear of being punished that a Jewish boy does not pour out his mother’s perfume onto the neighbor’s poodle: it’s because he knows that instead of buying new perfume tomorrow, his mother could buy food instead.

Parenting Tip #1. Nothing goes unnoticed

Any achievement must be rewarded

Any achievement must be rewarded

Modern psychologists advise you not to praise your child for any scribble, thereby stimulating his development. Jewish parents are nonetheless convinced that any achievement must be rewarded.

Even if a Jewish mother’s child brings her a napkin with unrecognizable scribbles all over it, she will find a pattern and proudly present it as a painting to the rest of the family.

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